why?/ Brandy Grayson (friend) I don't understand Why you had to go away, I wasn't done, I had much more to say.
There were so many things I wanted to share with you, So many things, Left for us to do.
I should've made you talk, I should've seen through your tears, I should've been there, To comfort and calm your fears.
You were my strength, But I feel I let you down, Oh what I'd give, To have you around.
But it's too late, You're gone now, my friend, But always know in your heart, I loved you until the end.
From Cousin Cathy / Marla's Mom Hold on to what is good even if it is a handful of earth. Hold on to what you believe even if it is a tree that stands by itself. Hold on to what you must do even if it is a long way from here. Hold on to life even if it is easier to let go. Hold on to my hand even if I have gone away from you.
Pueblo Blessing
Beautiful Marla / Barb
What a beautiful tribute to your beautiful daughter. I lost my 33 year son to suicide on June 13, 2007. I know the pain, heartache and guilt you are feeling. My thoughts will be with you always and I hope Marla and Mike both are at peace. Barb, Mom to Michael Smich 9/13/73 - 6/13/07 http://michael-smich.virtual-memorials.com/
A mothers Love / Carol Solimene I can only imagine the pain your in. The lose of a child must be umbearable. But just remember she can still hear you. Marla is only a whisper away. She will always be with you. In your heart and always by your side. Mother and child love is can reach to enternity and back.
We Remember Them: Jewish Prayer / Arline, Marla's Mom At the rising of the sun and at its going down, We remember them.
At the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter, We remember them.
At the opening of the buds and in the rebirth of spring, We remember them.
At the shining of the sun and in the warmth of summer, We remember them.
At the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of autumn, We remember them.
At the beginning of the year and at its end, We remember them.
As long as we live, they too will live: For they are now a part of us, As we remember them.
When we are weary and in need of strength, We remember them.
When we are lost and sick at heart, We remember them.
When we have joy we crave to share, We remember them.
When we have decisions that are difficult to make, We remember them.
When we have achievements that are based on theirs, We remember them.
When we fulfill their dreams, and our own, We remember them.
As long as we live, they too will live: For they are now a part of us, As we remember them.
You were honored / Arline, Marla's Mom (My beloved )
The Humane Society honored you by dedicating a memorial brick in your name on their pathway . It reads:
Marla Tracy Stumpff
For the love of Animals
Six months ago today / Mom, To my beautiful daughter Six months ago today, you died, and the person that I was died with you. I would gladly give my life for yours. I failed you in so many ways my love, and now it's too late for you, and too late for me. When you entered a room your dynamic, passionate presence lit up the atmosphere like fireworks. And now the world is dull and grey without you in it. Six months ago today, and yet it seems like both a moment and an eternity ago.
To a Angel / Charlene Marvo's Mom (Friend) Marla is so beautiful, the worlds lost, but heavens gain. You have done such a wonderful job on her Memorial Site. God bless you all. Marla, send Mom a sign to let her know that you are still beside her. RIP Marla.
Wrapped in angels loving arms / Lois Mom Of Bryan Kern (Friend Pos ) Marla, May the angels be forever with you as you rest with all the love and peace you so desired. Your family misses you and their love will never fade.
A Poem by Brigid Klein / Arline Marla's Mom
My beautiful girl, you've gone from me...
I didn't say goodbye.
No chance to hold you one more time...
or look into your eyes.
No chance to say things will be O.K..
or give you a bit of hope...
No chance to say I love you so
or try to help you cope.
I don't know how to let you go...
although you are not near...
Oh, what I would give away...
to have you with me here.
But nothing I can offer up...
can bring you back to me...
I pray you've found your peace at last...
that elusive serenity.
For Christine 1/20/75-2/26/02
To all who have known and loved her / Tanya Tringali (Friend) The day of Marla's funeral, since I could not be there, I spent may hours digging though old photos that I hadnt gone through in years. Of course I mourned. I had just lost my first real friend, the first person, not of blood relation, who I trusted with my own life. Marla was the first person who I trusted with my deepest, darkest secrets. In fact, its possible that she knew me better than anyone I have met and befriended since. We knew each other best in our youth, before we learned the art of facade as we all do as we move into out adult years. My point is that I didnt only mourn. I celebrated her beauty and our very special friendship. The photos I posted exude all the love and safety that we felt in each others friendship. I love and miss her so much and I am so glad that I have these pictures to come to when I need to see her smiling face. There are photos of us from age 10-20, mostly age 11-15, of us posing, playing, dancing, cheerleading, and celebrating together. I have been living in NY for so many years that we had drifted apart and I did not know that she was suffering so terribly these past few years. I wish I had been there for her. I know that these photos were very special for Arline and I thought that everyone in her life who misses her could benefit from them. I have posted these many pics of Marla, most from Middle and early High school. Please send me an email and I will gladly invite you to view them. Tanya TanyaTringali@gmail.com
Dance to the harp unstrung / Jill Howell (Friend of moms )
Arline, mom of Marla,
What a personality your Marla is! "Amazing Grace" is perfect for her, I can almost see her dancing, free and easy , natural and spontaneous. I hope you are able to feel her with you, by your side, dancing with you forever.
Wishing you peace, Jill, mom of Joey
I'll never forget Marla / Fernando Correa (Close Friend )
Marla was always a good friend! I will always remember her smile and her upbeat, bubbly and happy personality! She was an angel here on earth! I have many fond memories of Marla and will cherish them forever! Marla you will live forever in my memories and in my heart! I love you always!!
Ashley's Mum, POS / Jacky
A lovely tribute for a lovely girl, you have done a great job Arline. Love from Jacky in Australia.
If Roses grow in Heaven, Lord please pick a bunch for me, Place them in our Marla's arms And tell her they're from me.
Tell her we love her and miss her, And when she turns to smile, Place a kiss upon her cheek And hold her for awhile.
Because remembering her is easy, We do it every day, But there's an ache within our hearts Because we are missing her today...
Chosen by Brian to Read at Marla's funeral / Brian Stumpff (brother)
I AM NOT THERE
Do not stand by my grave and weep For I am not there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am diamonds that glint on the snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of butterflies in joyous flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there. I did not die.
Quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson / Cathy Voelker (Cousins)Read >>
Quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson / Cathy Voelker (Cousins) "To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bet better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded." -Ralph Waldo Emerson
This was in a memorial program that was for a 29 yo young man. He was in his first year of residency at UCLA. Marla and Geoff were taken from their love ones too soon, as they hadn't finished the dance.
Remembering this beautiful young girl and family at this holiday time and all the time.
I thought I should take some time and look at your daughters wonderfull memorial site. Wonderfully done! I hope to have one for Zane....one of these days.
Fellow surviving mom... / Adena Seitz ((POS))
You've done a beautiful job on this tribute to your daughter's life. She has the most amazing smile, what a gorgeous girl! I too, lost my son Michael. On July 31st, 2004 in the early morning hours the day after celebrating his 22nd birthday - July 30th, 1982; half of my heart was torn....away.
No one can understand the pain, anguish and unbelievability of losing a child; except maybe another mother that has lost a child. In each other's company, we, alone can express and comfort each other on this truly unwanted journey. If you ever need someone to talk to....please feel free to contact me.
We also have a tribute to our son, brother, and best friend to all, Michael, on Memory Of at http://michael-seitz.memory-of.com so when you have a moment we would love for you to visit.
Take one day at a time...and continue to wear that mask as long as you need to. Just remember that at POS you can remove that mask and be who you truly need to be!
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Marla, May the angels be forever with you as you rest with all the love and peace you so desired. Your family misses you and their love will never fade.
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